How to pick the perfect first dance – Guest Blog


We’re delighted to bring you this guest blog from from The Wedding Secret, full of great advice about how to pick the perfect track for a special and memorable first dance but that still reflects you and your partner and who you are as a couple – whether that’s slow and romantic or upbeat and bouncy! We know it can be a really daunting part of the day for a lot of couples (especially the groom!) but it doesn’t need to be. It’s an opportunity to publicly but personally celebrate your new marriage and it should be something you look forward to. Have a read and hopefully feel reassured that it you don’t need to be a professional dancer to enjoy this special moment in your big day.


How to Pick The Perfect Alternative First Dance Song That You And Your Partner Both Love

Getting married is one of the happiest days of anybody’s life. It marks the start of an entirely new chapter in your life, one that will hopefully last forever. To celebrate the starting of this, of course, there must be a wedding ceremony and reception. Although it will no doubt be one of the best days on your life, it can’t also be one of the most stressful to plan!

There are hundreds of little things that need organising when it comes to arranging your wedding. These vary from the big decisions like the venue and dress to the much smaller elements like table decorations and invitation styles. One such decision that is often overlooked until very close to the big day is that of a first dance song that you share with your partner to begin the evening festivities. If you are in the process of organising your own wedding and are starting to think about choosing a first dance song, you don’t always have to go down the traditional route of a popular love song.

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Picking an alternative or slightly more quirky first dance song than the norm might raise a few eyebrows, but if it is something special to you and your partner, something that holds much more meaning, then it is worth the decision. Here are a few considerations that will help you pick the perfect alternative first dance song for your wedding day.

1. Consider Shared Favourite Movies

Music from the movies is always a good place to start when thinking about a first dance song, especially movies that are special to both you and your partner. Did you go and see a movie on your first date? Is there a memorable song that is connected to it? Perhaps that might be a fun choice to begin the celebration of the rest of your lives together. The more unusual the better; it will make for a fun story to tell when wedding guests ask exactly why you chose that particular song.


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2. Pick For Your Own Musical Taste

The most important thing is to pick a song that suits both your and your partner’s musical tastes. Don’t go with a long, slow song simply because you think it is the thing you are supposed to do. If punk rock is your thing, then go ahead and pick a punk rock song. More than anything, the wedding day is yours; so everything should be tailored to you rather than to your guests. If you are into country music then pick a country song; it’s the only thing that makes sense!


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3.Don’t Be Scared To Show Your Sense Of Humour

A lot of people tend to pick a traditional love song for their first dance simply to go with the flow, but if you have a sense of humour about these kinds of things and find soppy love songs too cheesy, then don’t be afraid to search for something a little more quirky and comical. Sometimes, the inclusion of a song that has a sense of humour can make the whole occasion much more memorable.


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4. Can You Dance To It?

If you are the kind of person who likes to show off their moves, then a simple slow love song just isn’t going to cut it! Just because a song has a faster tempo, it doesn’t mean that it can’t be romantic or encapsulate the feelings of love that you feel for your partner. A fun thing that some couples often do is pick an up -beat song and then choreograph a little dance routine to perform for their guests. If you have that kind of confidence, then go for it!
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5. Do You Have ‘A Song’?

Lots of couples have ‘a song’ that they consider to be special to their relationship, and these songs don’t always end up being traditional love songs. Even if it’s a hip hop song or some death metal, don’t be afraid to use it during your wedding reception. After all, it is a day to celebrate your love for one another, and what is more fitting than choosing the song that you consider to be one of the most meaningful aspects of your life as a couple?
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6. Base Your Choice On Lyrics

Alternatively, if you don’t have a specific song in mind that is special to the both of you, it can often pay off to take a look through some lyrics websites online to try and find a song that has important words to you. It might not even be a song that you have heard before, but if the lyrics click, then don’t hesitate to decide it is the one.


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Here are just a few of The Wedding Secret’s top tips. Don’t feel under pressure when picking your wedding’s first dance song. Go with your heart and your feet will follow.

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